Having a baby is a big deal, and let’s face it ladies, women carry the brunt of the work during pregnancy, labor and – especially if breastfeeding – during baby’s first few weeks and months of life. While I am not really a fan of the push present concept – women have been doing this for ages and babies are an amazing gift of their own – I do think we deserve to feel good about ourselves and our bodies after such a major accomplishment. Easier said than done, right? While often dealing with pregnancy weight gain, sleep deprivation, hectic schedules and raging hormones, looking like anything other than a HOT MESS can be challenging to say the least for a new mama.
I’ll admit, I am a little old school. I grew up watching my mom sit in front of the vanity every morning, putting on her makeup, curling her hair religiously. While I am no fashion maven, if I don’t feel at least “OK” about my appearance, I find I am crankier and more self-conscious, which leads to me NOT wanting to leave the house. I don’t know about you, but getting OUT of the house is a must for me and more importantly, for my older child who needs to get her energy OUT. I was at the park with my two kids shortly after my little man was born in March, toting around a one week-old and a 20-month old, just for some sense of normalcy.
So, how can a sleep deprived, hormonal new mama get out of the house feeling like a human? Here are some of my top picks that I think all new mommies deserve in order to look good, feel good and as a result, be a better parent.
Good eyeliner – If nothing else, a good solid eyeliner is enough makeup to give your eyes a little definition and hide the sleepless nights you’re most likely experiencing. On my first post-baby mall outing, I stopped by the Bobby Brown counter where they let me sample their gel eyeliner. I thought it would be too hard to use, but found it easier and more effective than a pencil eyeliner and I am now a huge fan. (Disclaimer: You do really need to buy the BB Ultra Fine Eye Liner Brush to make it work well.)
An amazing nursing bra – I am part of a breastfeeding support Facebook groups, and so I did my homework on this one. Finding a good nursing bra that is easy to use, supports the girls and makes you feel like a woman isn’t easy. Hands down, I got TONS of recommendations for the Bravado Body Silk Seamless Nursing Bra . I got one in ivory and black so I have one to go with every outfit and I LOVE LOVE them.
A casual black dress – I have found dresses to be the easiest post maternity choice when I need to feel cute. You only have to think about ONE item, they are forgiving of my post-maternity tummy and they often allow for easy nursing. They can be worn to the park with flip flops and a ponytail, or you can dress them up with cute sandals and accessories.
Sassy Jewelry – Perhaps the easiest way to “dress up” in a hurry is a new pair of bold earrings and/or a bracelet that pair well with jeans and a t-shirt, or a statement necklace to dress up your casual black dress. Stores like Versona have GREAT cheap, fashionable jewelry that can dress up any outfit and make you feel less maternal.
Mother Tucker Nursing Tank by Belly Bandit – I’ve saved the best for last. This AMAZING undergarment fits like a comfy cami but hides at LEAST 10 pounds of pregnancy weight gain and gives you a level of confidence you thought unfathomable in the months after childbirth. I don’t know what it’s made of but it’s super soft and somehow also incredibly supportive in all the right areas. It hides back fat, muffin top, tummy, etc – I’ve worn dresses I thought I’d have to wait a year to wear all while hearing people say – “ You just had a baby?! You look amazing!” As if that weren’t enough to warrant buying it, nursing is a breeze. The straps just slide off and it also washes like a dream. GET ONE. I promise you will not regret it.
No matter WHAT you wear, remember, you just GAVE BIRTH TO A HUMAN. Be GENTLE with yourself and allow your body and mind time to get back to your normal – whatever that may be. Feeling good about yourself is as much mental as it is physical and while these tips are “superficial,” don’t forget that the time you spend with your babies – regardless of what you look like – is precious. They grow up WAY too fast to be obsessed with appearances.
Disclosure: I received a sample of the Mother Tucker Tank in exchange for my honest feedback. All opinions are my own. This post may contain affiliate links.