Sometimes though, you have no choice. There are questions in which the answer is either too long and complicated to explain or you simply don’t have a remote clue how to answer it.
For example, why do I let my son have a granola bar with chocolate chips in it AFTER lunch, but never before? He asked once and I was stumped. The answer was BECAUSE.
What a stupid but truthful answer. “No honey, you can’t have a bowl of ice cream for a snack at 10 a.m. but you can have some this afternoon.” Because consuming sugar at 3pm is SO MUCH BETTER than 10am. Because consuming a brownie for breakfast is so drastically different than consuming a cinnamon roll or a donut.
As a parent we often find ourselves trying to explain things that just DON’T NEED an explanation. “I am your mother and I said so” should be enough. Of course little minds can’t wrap their heads around that. How can they when even I know it makes no sense? A rule at our house is different than a rule at someone else’s house.
My son didn’t have any soda until he was five years old. Now he gets Sprite on special occasions (maybe a few times a year). We have friends whose children can have soda whenever they go out to eat. Sometimes my children can have dessert; sometimes they can’t. There are television shows that we don’t allow but other families do.
I try very hard to explain that every family is different and each family has their own set of guidelines and rules. No one raises their children the exact same. Life is tricky. Parenting is tricky. Sometimes there simply isn’t a logical answer.
Sometimes “because I said so” is the only phrase that works.