The other day I picked up Bug from school without Miss E. I’d had a work thing so I left her with my mom for lunch and then went to pick him up for school.
It was a completely different car ride than normal. Usually I ask him about his day and I get short answers at best or an “I’m not going to tell you” at worst. Then his sister starts saying “mama” over and over again and fusses the entire ten minute ride home.
On this particular car ride I got to hear all about his day. I asked question after question and he answered cheerfully. I heard more in ten minutes than I usually hear in a week. Wonderful doesn’t even begin to describe how awesome it was.
I got to thinking about our time together. We spend a lot of time with each other, but I’m not sure how much of it counts as “quality” time. Do you know what I mean? I read somewhere that you need to give your children at least twenty minutes a day of complete and total “eye” time. Eye time meaning you are at their level, engaged and looking them in the eye.
Twenty minutes seems like NOTHING when you are with the for every hour of the day except while they are sleeping. But in reality, it’s harder to do than you would think.
Today we talked. He talked. I listened. We played. I hugged him; he tried to get away. He pretends he doesn’t like it but I know he does.
I want to be more cognizant of this. Both my children need time with just me and not including the other. They need to do the same with my husband. More father/daughter dates. More mommy/son dates.
It makes SUCH a huge difference to have those one on one moments. Thankful for the reminder and ready to plan the chance to do it again.