I miss my friends.
It’s one of the weird things about becoming a parent. You love your friends, you WANT to see them, to hang out…but time slips by. All of a sudden you realize it’s been WEEKS, MONTHS since you’ve talked, gotten together for coffee, to spill the dirt…much less have a girls get away.
I know it happens. I’m a mom. Then I’m a wife. Then I’m a marketing director. That consumes my life, my time. I know I need to make more time…FIND TIME…to see them more. In the long run, it’ll make me a better mom and a better wife if I make the time for myself and my friends.
Most of my friends have kids, so it’s hard for all of us. To coordinate a time for us all to get together is beyond difficult. But my best friend, my oldest, dearest friend doesn’t have kids yet. And I find myself becoming JEALOUS of her other relationships. Am I 13? Seriously? I couldn’t believe it the other day when she mentioned going on a trip with some other friends (kidless friends). It bothered me. Without me? We were supposed to plan fun trips together. We are supposed to hang out and have dinners and celebrate things. I could feel the green eyed monster slithering up my back. EWWWWWW! What is wrong with me? We all have multiple friends. We can’t all do things together. I hang out with other people (sometimes. when I have time.) Utter ridiculousness. That is what I think about myself.
But I can’t help it.
I love my son. I love my husband. But I really miss my friends. I want to make it a priority for the new year. At the very least, couldn’t we meet for lunch once a month?
I find myself in the exact same boat these days…no New Years plans and I'm sure some of my friends out there have some. It also makes it much harder that my hubby's friends are all still "single" meaning not married so he can head out with them anytime he wants. I feel we've joined a club having kids….people don't think you're able to do things you used to do…but hello people I have two sets of grandparents both willing to watch my baby!! Remember people with kids still have social needs!! I'm with you 100%!!
I understand and right there with ya! Hate I'll miss you guys next week, but we're trying to see Jason as much as we can before tax season. Speaking of which, I'll be all alone with kids every Saturday for 4 months…fill up my weekends please please please!
Erin, Start a monthly Bunko night with 12 or so of your mom friends AND your kid-less friends 🙂 Pick the third Thursday night of the month or something obscure but that you know will be on your calenda. Hold it at a different person's house each month (host provides dinner and drinks Or you could do pot-luck.) You'll be amazed how quickly a month flies by, but you get to see your friends each time for fun, drinks and maybe some cash! It really is an automatic way to see the friends without letting too much time go by and a great night out for catching up on the latest gossip or mommy advice!
I just opened a Dove chocolate that said "make a call to see a friend." The baby isnt even here yet, and I understand! If I can be up and eating chocolate at 6am, I should be able to schedule a meeting with SOMEONE between work and wife time. If it only gets harder then I am screwed!
BTW~ All the mom friends and dad friends are doing this year's beach trip… that is a whole week of it in September!
~HH