A letter to my firstborn on his sixth birthday

by Erin L. on December 15, 2014

Today I am the mother of a six year old. I have no idea how this happened. It often seems like just yesterday  I was holding you in my arms for the very first time.

They say “the days are long but the years are short” and that is never more true than when you look at your children.

Buddy, I am so proud to be your mama. You are turning into an amazing boy, with this sparkling personality that makes your father and I so very happy.

This has been a big year of you. Kindergarten started four months ago and you love it. Of course, your favorite activities are lunch and recess, but when I push you on what activity IN the classroom you like most, you tell me math. You are your father’s son after all.

You’re learning to read and I love to hear you sound out words. You want to know everything all at once and get quite frustrated when you get something wrong. It’s such a tough thing to learn and understand. Learning takes time and you have to be patient. You can’t be good at absolutely everything but I am quite sure you are going to try.

This year you loved playing Disney Infinity and we recently were introduced to Minecraft. These things bring you great joy and agonizing pain. Most of our arguments and tantrums are a direct result of these games, so there have been many weeks where we’ve had to take a break.

This year, our obsession with Power Rangers and Ninja Turtles gave way to Star Wars. You’ve now seen all six movies and we just started watching the Rebel series on the Disney Channel. We have lightsabers all over the house and you were Darth Vadar for Halloween. (You so wanted to be Darth Maul, but that was not even close to being five year old appropriate.)

You still love all sports and activities. We took up baseball this fall and you want to play again in the spring. You also did a great job at the pool over the summer and I just know you’ll be swimming in the deep end come June.

Your sister adores you and wants to do everything you do. We are so lucky that you two enjoy each other the way you do. You play way more than you fight and I am so tickled by the games that you make up together.

Six seems so very big at times, but you are still my little boy. As grown up as you seem, I am so thankful that you still like to cuddle with me. Kisses are a no go but I steal them just the same.

Bedtime is my favorite. It’s the only time I can really get you to talk to me about your day, your life. I prod with questions and gulp up every drop of information you might give me.

You are happy, my sweet boy, and that makes me happy.

Your daddy and I love you so.

Happy birthday, my Wonderbug! You make my life joyful.

This kid is six

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Some days “good” is all I’ve got

by Erin L. on December 12, 2014

Life has peaks and valleys; it ebbs and flows. But most of the time, we are standing in the middle of the road.

But the middle isn’t talked about. It’s not celebrated. We are always pushing for more – to do more, be more. Satisfactory isn’t allowed. We must excel at all times. We aren’t allowed to even be average.

I’m tired, overwhelmed and in a place where I don’t feel like I’m doing that great of a job at anything. It’s not true (or so my husband says), but yet, it’s a feeling that I can’t quite shake.

It’s a season that we all experience, yet somehow, when we are in it, we feel incomplete and at a loss. Why? One can’t be amazing all the time. It’s not humanly possible. Yet we live in a world where we are encouraged and pushed to be the best we can be every day. That would be okay except that society has interpreted that sentiment to mean we have to be ON, ACTIVE, DOING, CREATING every second of every hour.

But guess what? Sometimes our best is just putting one foot in front of the other. Sometimes our best is a 2.5 in a 5.0 GPA world. Sometimes just getting out of bed is the best that we can do. AND THAT IS OKAY.

Dictionary.com defines average as “typical; common; ordinary”. Life has defined it as subpar and mediocre and that’s simply not the case. Typical means it happens more often than not. Common reminds me that EVERYONE feels this way sometime. The middle of the road is, indeed, common, but we’re made to feel like it’s not.

I need to give myself a break. WE need to give ourselves a break.

Slow down. Breathe. Be.

I am one person. There is only so much I can do and give at one time. I have limits.

This season – this holiday season- may be the hardest time to be stuck in the middle. We are all running, constantly sprinting from thing to thing. More than ever, it’s the time to stop and give ourselves permission to be IN. THE. MIDDLE.

We rejoice in the huge accomplishments and we reach out to our friends who are in need – but we also need to acknowledge this middle ground. Slowing down is not a weakness. Saying no is always ok. Not giving 110% is perfectly fine.

I’m screaming UNCLE and accepting where I am today.  I’m standing in the middle of the road. If you’re feeling that way too, I invite you to join me. I offer coffee and hugs.

 

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Have you gotten your flu shot yet? #NIVW2014

December 9, 2014
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Guess who hasn’t gotten their flu shot yet? That would be me. I took care of the kids a few weeks ago and my husband was lucky enough to get his at work. So the only one left is me. I know I should get it. My kids bring home every germ possible and even if they don’t get whatever funk they’ve brought home, I, inevitably, do. Before kids I didn’t EVER get sick. I also never got the flu shot. But now I don’t have time to be sick […]

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In the mood for a little holiday music? #HolidayWishes

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It’s the first week of December and that means CHRISTMAS MUSIC! I know many of you have been listening to it for a few weeks now but now it’s officially acceptable by all people. I love a good Christmas album and nothing puts me in the holiday spirit more than blaring “God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen” (the Barenaked Ladies/Sarah version OF COURSE) on our kitchen speakers. Every year I search out a new album and this year I was stoked to hear that Idina Menzel was putting one out. My […]

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2015 Toyota Camry Goes Bold

November 30, 2014
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Let’s start out with some important information. I’m not a car girl. I don’t know the fancy terminology and I can’t tell you what a catalytic converter does. But I like to get behind the wheel and go. That’s a good thing since these days I spend a good chunk of my time in the car, carting my kids from school to activity and back again. When I was approached to test drive the new 2015 Toyota Camry on our recent trip to the mountains, I thought “well this will be fun” […]

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Mockingjay lukewarm but still worth seeing (movie review)

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When I read the Hunger Games trilogy two years ago, I remember being disappointed with the last book. So I was not surprised that I found the third movie installment lacking. Part of it is the nature of the plot line. Since they split the final book into two movies, we’ve only got half a story to watch. District 13 spends the entire movie preparing for battle, which means there isn’t the action that there is in the first two films. If you haven’t read the books, Mockingjay picks up after Katniss […]

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